First of all, I’m very sorry for your loss, Helen. I’ve never suffered the loss of a spouse, but I watched my mother go through it after my father died. The slightest contact with other people meant the world to her in the months that followed. A phone call or visit was a very healing thing, whether it was family, friends, or even a neighbor. My mother was only 16 years old when she married my dad and they were married over 50 years. She didn’t really know how to live by herself. It also helped her a whole lot to be with others who had suffered the loss of a spouse. I’m very sorry for your friend’s loss too. I’m sure she is very grateful for your friendship right now. I will remember you both in my prayers today.